Domestic abuse is not limited to heterosexual relationships.  Traumatic abuse can also happen in LGBTQI relationships. Physical, emotional, financial and verbal abuse in any relationship is unacceptable. Esperanza can help.

Abuse in LGBTQI relationships may include the threat to “out” someone.  Painful insults and/or threats are often used as additional weapons. Past traumatic experiences such as bullying or hate crimes may make LGBTQI survivors less likely to seek help.

At Esperanza, we offer counseling for the LGBTQI community facilitated by caring, competent staff. Our confidential shelter, counseling, court advocacy and other services are available for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex individuals experiencing abuse. If you or someone you love needs help, call our 24/7 Crisis Hotline for more information. 505.473.5200.

Abuse in LGBTQI Relationships

  • 20% of victims have experienced some form of physical violence
  • 16% have been victims of threats and intimidation
  • 15% have been verbally harassed
  • 4% of survivors have experienced sexual violence
  • 11% of intimate violence cases reported in the NCADVP’s 2015 report involved a weapon.

    (Credit: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence)

    8 Quick Statistics about Domestic Violence and the LGBTQI Community

  • 43.8% of lesbian women and 61.1% of bisexual women have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime.
  • 26% of gay men and 37.3% of bisexual men have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
  • In a study of male same sex relationships, only 26% of men called the police for assistance after experiencing near-lethal violence.
  • In 2012, fewer than 5% of LGBTQI survivors of intimate partner violence sought orders of protection.
  • Transgender victims are more likely to experience intimate partner violence in public, compared to those who do not identify as transgender.
  • Bisexual victims are more likely to experience sexual violence, compared to people who do not identify as bisexual.
  • LGBTQI Black/African American victims are more likely to experience physical intimate partner violence, compared to those who do not identify as Black/African American.
  • LGBTQI Caucasian victims are more likely to experience sexual violence, compared to those who do not identify as Caucasian.

(Credit: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence)

Transgender Intimate Partner Violence

Transgender individuals may suffer from an even greater burden of intimate partner violence than gay or lesbian individuals. Transgender victims of intimate partner violence are more likely to experience threats, intimidation and harassment. Specific forms of abuse occur within relationships where one partner is transgender, including:

  • Using offensive pronouns such as “it” to refer to the transgender partner
  • Ridiculing the transgender partner’s body and/or appearance
  • Telling the transgender partner that he or she is not a real man or woman
  • Ridiculing the transgender partner’s identity as “bisexual,” “trans,” “femme,” “butch,” “gender queer,” etc.

(Credit:  National Coalition Against Domestic Violence)

 

If someone you know is in immediate danger, call 911!